I just got prints made of artist Natalie Nourigat’s illustrations for Sex from Scratch. I love this illustration the best. 

Portland people! This is happening. The night of the book release is also my birthday, so you have to come. 

Hey New York people! I’m hosting a fun party with great writers and excellent music and tasty snacks and you’re invited. Come snag a copy of Sex from Scratch and listen to tunes from Julia Weldon. 

My book is now printed and real! Friends helped me haul boxes home from the publisher yesterday—my favorite parts are the adorable illustrations by Natalie Nourigat and the solid-gold text designs by Molly Schaeffer. Oh, and the words are pretty good too. 
Sex from Scratch changed a lot while I was writing it. Here’s the final table of contents and explanation of the project: 


Modern life calls for modern relationship advice. Sex From Scratch: Making Your Own Relationship Rules is a love and dating guidebook that gleans real-life knowledge from smart people in a variety of nontraditional relationships. Instead of telling people how to snag a man and find “true love,” the book sums up what dozens of diverse folks have learned the hard way over time—life advice from people making open relationships work to people who’ve decided they’re never going to have kids—that is helpful to anyone, in any type of relationship. This is an essential, fun, insightful resource whose time has come. 


Release party at Powells City of Books in Portland on August 25th! You can preorder the book here and it’ll show up on your doorstep soon. 
THANKS SO MUCH to the dozens of friends and strangers who helped me research and write this book over the past two years. You all are wonderful and we’ve made a book that will be helpful to a lot of people.  My book is now printed and real! Friends helped me haul boxes home from the publisher yesterday—my favorite parts are the adorable illustrations by Natalie Nourigat and the solid-gold text designs by Molly Schaeffer. Oh, and the words are pretty good too. 
Sex from Scratch changed a lot while I was writing it. Here’s the final table of contents and explanation of the project: 


Modern life calls for modern relationship advice. Sex From Scratch: Making Your Own Relationship Rules is a love and dating guidebook that gleans real-life knowledge from smart people in a variety of nontraditional relationships. Instead of telling people how to snag a man and find “true love,” the book sums up what dozens of diverse folks have learned the hard way over time—life advice from people making open relationships work to people who’ve decided they’re never going to have kids—that is helpful to anyone, in any type of relationship. This is an essential, fun, insightful resource whose time has come. 


Release party at Powells City of Books in Portland on August 25th! You can preorder the book here and it’ll show up on your doorstep soon. 
THANKS SO MUCH to the dozens of friends and strangers who helped me research and write this book over the past two years. You all are wonderful and we’ve made a book that will be helpful to a lot of people.  My book is now printed and real! Friends helped me haul boxes home from the publisher yesterday—my favorite parts are the adorable illustrations by Natalie Nourigat and the solid-gold text designs by Molly Schaeffer. Oh, and the words are pretty good too. 
Sex from Scratch changed a lot while I was writing it. Here’s the final table of contents and explanation of the project: 


Modern life calls for modern relationship advice. Sex From Scratch: Making Your Own Relationship Rules is a love and dating guidebook that gleans real-life knowledge from smart people in a variety of nontraditional relationships. Instead of telling people how to snag a man and find “true love,” the book sums up what dozens of diverse folks have learned the hard way over time—life advice from people making open relationships work to people who’ve decided they’re never going to have kids—that is helpful to anyone, in any type of relationship. This is an essential, fun, insightful resource whose time has come. 


Release party at Powells City of Books in Portland on August 25th! You can preorder the book here and it’ll show up on your doorstep soon. 
THANKS SO MUCH to the dozens of friends and strangers who helped me research and write this book over the past two years. You all are wonderful and we’ve made a book that will be helpful to a lot of people.  My book is now printed and real! Friends helped me haul boxes home from the publisher yesterday—my favorite parts are the adorable illustrations by Natalie Nourigat and the solid-gold text designs by Molly Schaeffer. Oh, and the words are pretty good too. 
Sex from Scratch changed a lot while I was writing it. Here’s the final table of contents and explanation of the project: 


Modern life calls for modern relationship advice. Sex From Scratch: Making Your Own Relationship Rules is a love and dating guidebook that gleans real-life knowledge from smart people in a variety of nontraditional relationships. Instead of telling people how to snag a man and find “true love,” the book sums up what dozens of diverse folks have learned the hard way over time—life advice from people making open relationships work to people who’ve decided they’re never going to have kids—that is helpful to anyone, in any type of relationship. This is an essential, fun, insightful resource whose time has come. 


Release party at Powells City of Books in Portland on August 25th! You can preorder the book here and it’ll show up on your doorstep soon. 
THANKS SO MUCH to the dozens of friends and strangers who helped me research and write this book over the past two years. You all are wonderful and we’ve made a book that will be helpful to a lot of people. 

My book is now printed and real! Friends helped me haul boxes home from the publisher yesterday—my favorite parts are the adorable illustrations by Natalie Nourigat and the solid-gold text designs by Molly Schaeffer. Oh, and the words are pretty good too. 

Sex from Scratch changed a lot while I was writing it. Here’s the final table of contents and explanation of the project: 

Modern life calls for modern relationship advice. Sex From Scratch: Making Your Own Relationship Rules is a love and dating guidebook that gleans real-life knowledge from smart people in a variety of nontraditional relationships. Instead of telling people how to snag a man and find “true love,” the book sums up what dozens of diverse folks have learned the hard way over time—life advice from people making open relationships work to people who’ve decided they’re never going to have kids—that is helpful to anyone, in any type of relationship. This is an essential, fun, insightful resource whose time has come. 

Release party at Powells City of Books in Portland on August 25th! You can preorder the book here and it’ll show up on your doorstep soon. 

THANKS SO MUCH to the dozens of friends and strangers who helped me research and write this book over the past two years. You all are wonderful and we’ve made a book that will be helpful to a lot of people. 

Although sex-ed films are meant to resonate with American students from all walks of life, they have tended, over time, to omit key details. In his research, Sex Ed author Robert Eberwein found that mentions of the clitoris as a part of female anatomy were relatively rare in the canon of sex-ed films. No film mentioned how the clitoris relates to female pleasure until the 1980s. Films have been far more likely to discuss male masturbation than to consider that women masturbate and have sexual needs. While educational films that discuss hormone changes in boys often made reference to “nocturnal emissions,” the exploration of girls’ hormone changes focus on menstruation and the emergence of child-bearing hips, rather than on desire. 
From: The Dramatic History of American Sex-Ed Films by Sarah Mirk. The photos are film still’s from the 1922 sex-ed movie “Science of Life.” Although sex-ed films are meant to resonate with American students from all walks of life, they have tended, over time, to omit key details. In his research, Sex Ed author Robert Eberwein found that mentions of the clitoris as a part of female anatomy were relatively rare in the canon of sex-ed films. No film mentioned how the clitoris relates to female pleasure until the 1980s. Films have been far more likely to discuss male masturbation than to consider that women masturbate and have sexual needs. While educational films that discuss hormone changes in boys often made reference to “nocturnal emissions,” the exploration of girls’ hormone changes focus on menstruation and the emergence of child-bearing hips, rather than on desire. 
From: The Dramatic History of American Sex-Ed Films by Sarah Mirk. The photos are film still’s from the 1922 sex-ed movie “Science of Life.”

Although sex-ed films are meant to resonate with American students from all walks of life, they have tended, over time, to omit key details. In his research, Sex Ed author Robert Eberwein found that mentions of the clitoris as a part of female anatomy were relatively rare in the canon of sex-ed films. No film mentioned how the clitoris relates to female pleasure until the 1980s. Films have been far more likely to discuss male masturbation than to consider that women masturbate and have sexual needs. While educational films that discuss hormone changes in boys often made reference to “nocturnal emissions,” the exploration of girls’ hormone changes focus on menstruation and the emergence of child-bearing hips, rather than on desire. 

From: The Dramatic History of American Sex-Ed Films by Sarah Mirk. The photos are film still’s from the 1922 sex-ed movie “Science of Life.”

“We’ve reached the cultural acceptance point where it’s possible for writing about open relationships to be banal.”
— A Bitch article I edited about media coverage of polyamory is highlighted on OpeningUp.net today! Exciting. 
My friend Molly Schaeffer turned good relationship advice from my book into a series of illustrated postcards. These have been fun to send out to people—I’ll take any excuse to send more mail.  My friend Molly Schaeffer turned good relationship advice from my book into a series of illustrated postcards. These have been fun to send out to people—I’ll take any excuse to send more mail.  My friend Molly Schaeffer turned good relationship advice from my book into a series of illustrated postcards. These have been fun to send out to people—I’ll take any excuse to send more mail.  My friend Molly Schaeffer turned good relationship advice from my book into a series of illustrated postcards. These have been fun to send out to people—I’ll take any excuse to send more mail.  My friend Molly Schaeffer turned good relationship advice from my book into a series of illustrated postcards. These have been fun to send out to people—I’ll take any excuse to send more mail. 

My friend Molly Schaeffer turned good relationship advice from my book into a series of illustrated postcards. These have been fun to send out to people—I’ll take any excuse to send more mail. 

powells:

Which of these soon-to-be-released books by Oregon authors are you most excited for? http://powells.us/1qbWbHu

Look what book Powells included on their list of titles to look forward to this summer! i <3 Powells.  powells:

Which of these soon-to-be-released books by Oregon authors are you most excited for? http://powells.us/1qbWbHu

Look what book Powells included on their list of titles to look forward to this summer! i <3 Powells.  powells:

Which of these soon-to-be-released books by Oregon authors are you most excited for? http://powells.us/1qbWbHu

Look what book Powells included on their list of titles to look forward to this summer! i <3 Powells.  powells:

Which of these soon-to-be-released books by Oregon authors are you most excited for? http://powells.us/1qbWbHu

Look what book Powells included on their list of titles to look forward to this summer! i <3 Powells.  powells:

Which of these soon-to-be-released books by Oregon authors are you most excited for? http://powells.us/1qbWbHu

Look what book Powells included on their list of titles to look forward to this summer! i <3 Powells.  powells:

Which of these soon-to-be-released books by Oregon authors are you most excited for? http://powells.us/1qbWbHu

Look what book Powells included on their list of titles to look forward to this summer! i <3 Powells.  powells:

Which of these soon-to-be-released books by Oregon authors are you most excited for? http://powells.us/1qbWbHu

Look what book Powells included on their list of titles to look forward to this summer! i <3 Powells.  powells:

Which of these soon-to-be-released books by Oregon authors are you most excited for? http://powells.us/1qbWbHu

Look what book Powells included on their list of titles to look forward to this summer! i <3 Powells.  powells:

Which of these soon-to-be-released books by Oregon authors are you most excited for? http://powells.us/1qbWbHu

Look what book Powells included on their list of titles to look forward to this summer! i <3 Powells.  powells:

Which of these soon-to-be-released books by Oregon authors are you most excited for? http://powells.us/1qbWbHu

Look what book Powells included on their list of titles to look forward to this summer! i <3 Powells. 

powells:

Which of these soon-to-be-released books by Oregon authors are you most excited for? http://powells.us/1qbWbHu

Look what book Powells included on their list of titles to look forward to this summer! i <3 Powells. 

Look, everyone! Advance reader copies of the book! How exciting. Thanks for all your help in getting to this point, friends. If you’re curious how the final version shaped up, check out the table of contents

The book now has a release date: August 1st.  If you’re a writer and want to get a copy to review or publicize in some way, get in touch! I’d love to send you a copy. 

I love reading poetry on airplanes. Usually, my brain has too many tabs open to really take the time to focus on a poem. The inhumane Delta seats form a little sensory deprivation space where I can zero in on the words in front of me. I spent a whole flight to Denver reading Adrienne Rich’s collection Dreams of a Common Language. Here’s my favorite line from her poem "Splittings."