My book is now printed and real! Friends helped me haul boxes home from the publisher yesterday—my favorite parts are the adorable illustrations by Natalie Nourigat and the solid-gold text designs by Molly Schaeffer. Oh, and the words are pretty good too.
Sex from Scratch changed a lot while I was writing it. Here’s the final table of contents and explanation of the project:
Modern life calls for modern relationship advice. Sex From Scratch: Making Your Own Relationship Rules is a love and dating guidebook that gleans real-life knowledge from smart people in a variety of nontraditional relationships. Instead of telling people how to snag a man and find “true love,” the book sums up what dozens of diverse folks have learned the hard way over time—life advice from people making open relationships work to people who’ve decided they’re never going to have kids—that is helpful to anyone, in any type of relationship. This is an essential, fun, insightful resource whose time has come.
Release party at Powells City of Books in Portland on August 25th! You can preorder the book here and it’ll show up on your doorstep soon.
THANKS SO MUCH to the dozens of friends and strangers who helped me research and write this book over the past two years. You all are wonderful and we’ve made a book that will be helpful to a lot of people.
Although sex-ed films are meant to resonate with American students from all walks of life, they have tended, over time, to omit key details. In his research, Sex Ed author Robert Eberwein found that mentions of the clitoris as a part of female anatomy were relatively rare in the canon of sex-ed films. No film mentioned how the clitoris relates to female pleasure until the 1980s. Films have been far more likely to discuss male masturbation than to consider that women masturbate and have sexual needs. While educational films that discuss hormone changes in boys often made reference to “nocturnal emissions,” the exploration of girls’ hormone changes focus on menstruation and the emergence of child-bearing hips, rather than on desire.
Look, everyone! Advance reader copies of the book! How exciting. Thanks for all your help in getting to this point, friends. If you’re curious how the final version shaped up, check out the table of contents.
The book now has a release date: August 1st. If you’re a writer and want to get a copy to review or publicize in some way, get in touch! I’d love to send you a copy.
I love reading poetry on airplanes. Usually, my brain has too many tabs open to really take the time to focus on a poem. The inhumane Delta seats form a little sensory deprivation space where I can zero in on the words in front of me. I spent a whole flight to Denver reading Adrienne Rich’s collection Dreams of a Common Language. Here’s my favorite line from her poem "Splittings."