Terrible Relationship Advice
I was supposed to write a lighthearted, funny essay about dating for radio variety show LiveWire, but then I got sad. So the essay turned sad and sincere. Here’s the piece I read on LiveWire about writing a book about relationships while going through heartbreak.
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I’ve always solved problems with books. Pretty much the only tool in my utility belt is my library card. So when I hit my mid-twenties in a long-term relationship that didn’t feel quite right, I made the choice any rational person would: instead of seeing a therapist, I would write a book. I set off on what turned into two years of interviewing people in all sorts of interesting relationships about what they’ve learned the hard way. Along the way, I realized that five terrible pieces of relationship advice had burrowed deep into my brain.
Number one: “You can transform your sex life by learning 75 ways to please your man.”